Jomeny Cosme's Blog

In these times of difficulty everyone is looking to find their place in this world. Everyone wants to feel important and wanted. One of the biggest questions in society is “what is on demand?” What can I do to become irreplaceable? What is it that will separate me from the bunch? Continue reading →

Her smile lit the whole room. I remember how surprised I was at realizing that she was the happiest woman I had ever seen. I was called in to pray for her and speak to her because the doctors said she didn’t have much time left. She was suffering from some sort of strange illness that I can’t recall the name of. I said she was suffering from the illness although I don’t think I should really call it suffering. She seemed more excited about life than all of the people in that room including myself. Continue reading →

The words “it’s not fair” has become common complaint cried out by many of the people who I’ve counseled on a one on one basis. I respond to them with a nod of approval followed by the words “I agree and it will never be”. Life isn’t about what’s fair and what’s not, it’s about who’s in control. Are you leading life or is life leading you? It’s about you taking life in the direction of your true destiny despite the hurdles you have to jump over along the way.

What people need to understand is that they need to stop expecting life to be fair. This expectation is unrealistic and it sets you up for constant disappointments. It’s the people who waste their days waiting to receive what they feel is their just reward that often end up empty-handed. I’ve learned that nothing will be yours unless you take it. If life itself won’t give you your chance then it’s up to you to give it to yourself. Go ahead!, you have my permission, send your resume to your dream job, build up the courage and ask your boss for that raise, reach your goals, you deserve it.

Now I’m not going to guarantee that you will get what you want. I don’t want any nasty emails from brokenhearted people. I’m just telling you that most of the time the greatest opportunities you get are the ones you give yourself. So what do you do if you fail? Think of it like this, when you’re driving and suddenly you find that one of the streets you normally take to get to your destination is blocked, you don’t automatically quit, you find another route. In the same way, failure doesn’t mean you should quit on your goals entirely, it just means you need another route. It means that this particular person, place, or thing isn’t tied to your destiny so try somewhere or someone else. If life isn’t fair to you, then you be fair to yourself and move because you have places to go and people to see———- and if asked just say I sent you.

It’s not everyday that you discover a new talent. I was about eight years old when I discovered mine. Once I discovered I can draw I couldn’t keep my hand off of the pencil. The fact that I could’ve created any image I wanted gave me a sense of total control. It also gave me some unwanted attention.

Many times I found myself surrounded by a group of friends, smothering me, tapping my shoulder, naming all kinds of characters and ideas that they wanted me to create for them. In the end, none of their ideas mattered to me( remember it was a control thing)they had to settle for what I put together. Every picture became a reflection of me, my creativity and my inspiration. The pencil was in my hand and that power belonged to me.

Now that I’m an adult I have come to realize that, like many people, I’m still dealing with this same situation. The difference is that now my life has become the paper on which I must create my next masterpiece.

You see, you always begin your life with a mental picture of what you would like it to become. You begin to take action to create this wonderful picture but are soon challenged by lifes opposing forces. These opposing forces come in the form of setbacks, disappointments and tragic events. Each of these tempt you to want to change your picture and settle for less than the true desires of your heart.

I’ve always wanted to know, what makes many people who once dreamed of success settle for mediocrity? What makes someone who just wanted to be happy, lose that hope and end up in a state of depression?

I believe that no event, no matter how tragic, can ever make happiness truly unattainable.

I’ve learned that it’s up to you and you don’t have to give up control. You don’t have to give up the power to be happy.

This is still your life, your picture and the pencil is still in your hands. I dare you even in the face of adversity, to still create your masterpiece—— the life of your dreams.